Cerita pagi hari

Aku tinggal dengan dua orang dari Syria, sudah setengah tahun ini, namanya Sidra dan Bayan. Despite language barrier, we got along fine. Kadang jika waktu berbarengan kami sarapan bersama. Hari ini aku sarapan dengan Bayan, dan obrolan kami dibuka dengan cerita Bayan mengenai Sang Ibunda yang kerap mengatakan, "kenapa kamu tidak ke jerman?", why you fail, why you didn't try harder etc (fyi Bayan sebelumnya mencoba apply Ph.D di jerman but then she failed and stay here in Hongaria), apalagi setelah melihat unggahan Karam, teman Syria yang juga teman biologinya yang diterima di Jerman. Making her even more depressed after she needs to adjust to life of researcher here. Atau mungkin ini hanya karena insekuritas sosial media.

Yang mau aku highlight disini, setelah mendengar ceritanya, Ibunya yang kerap membanding-bandingkan, dan kalaupun ia ke jerman, ia hanya merupakan alat untuk digembor-gemborkan oleh ibunya. Membuatku berpikir, do my mother like that? I know for sure she is so proud of me going study abroad since she post a lot about it in Facebook. But the thing, even when I'm failed, she never said thing to discouraged me. Sure, she is disappointed, but she never show it in front of me. Making me wonder life of a mom is so complicated.

The second highlight, sure I will agree with Bayan that maybe her mom is like that due the pressure in social media, like you always need to post, post and post to prove that you are doing something. It's like her mom triggered because everyone's children are doing better than hers. I understood this point but pressuring the child and asking why you fail when she did her best is still a no no.